{"id":394,"date":"2018-12-27T08:45:36","date_gmt":"2018-12-27T07:45:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/?p=394"},"modified":"2019-10-20T16:55:21","modified_gmt":"2019-10-20T14:55:21","slug":"elementor-394","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/?p=394","title":{"rendered":"Et si nos m\u00e8res avaient simplement oubli\u00e9 de nous dire …"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\n\n[et_pb_section fb_built=\u00a0\u00bb1″ _builder_version=\u00a0\u00bb3.19″][et_pb_row _builder_version=\u00a0\u00bb3.19″][et_pb_column type=\u00a0\u00bb4_4″ _builder_version=\u00a0\u00bb3.19″ parallax=\u00a0\u00bboff\u00a0\u00bb parallax_method=\u00a0\u00bbon\u00a0\u00bb][et_pb_image align=\u00a0\u00bbcenter\u00a0\u00bb max_width=\u00a0\u00bb60%\u00a0\u00bb src=\u00a0\u00bbhttps:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/grandmother-453131_1920.jpg\u00a0\u00bb _builder_version=\u00a0\u00bb3.19″ module_alignment=\u00a0\u00bbcenter\u00a0\u00bb][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=\u00a0\u00bb1″ _builder_version=\u00a0\u00bb3.19″ custom_padding=\u00a0\u00bb0|0px|54px|0px|false|false\u00a0\u00bb][et_pb_row _builder_version=\u00a0\u00bb3.19″ custom_padding=\u00a0\u00bb0|0px|27px|0px|false|false\u00a0\u00bb][et_pb_column type=\u00a0\u00bb4_4″ _builder_version=\u00a0\u00bb3.19″ parallax=\u00a0\u00bboff\u00a0\u00bb parallax_method=\u00a0\u00bbon\u00a0\u00bb][et_pb_text text_font_size=\u00a0\u00bb18px\u00a0\u00bb text_orientation=\u00a0\u00bbjustified\u00a0\u00bb _builder_version=\u00a0\u00bb3.19″ text_font=\u00a0\u00bbVesper Libre||||||||\u00a0\u00bb text_text_color=\u00a0\u00bb#565656″]

Notre m\u00e8re, premi\u00e8re femme de notre vie,<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Notre rep\u00e8re, notre r\u00e9f\u00e9rence, notre d\u00e9samour\u2026notre prison.<\/p>\n

Fille de sa m\u00e8re, m\u00e8re de sa fille, nous ne sommes pas toutes m\u00e8res mais nous en avons toute une avec laquelle nous entretenons des rapports aux formes complexes et \u00e0 l\u2019intensit\u00e9 variable.<\/p>\n

Filles en construction d\u2019identit\u00e9, nous cherchons confus\u00e9ment \u00e0 devenir Femme, confront\u00e9e \u00e0 une image maternelle que nous redoutons ou d\u00e9sesp\u00e9rons de devenir.<\/p>\n

Femme adulte, obscur\u00e9ment coupable de ne pas \u00eatre la fille id\u00e9ale de notre m\u00e8re, nous esp\u00e9rons r\u00e9ussir \u00e0 \u00eatre la m\u00e8re de notre fille.<\/p>\n

Difficile de se construire dans la contradiction de nos \u00e9motions et dans l\u2019ambivalence de sentiments qui nous lient \u00e0 nos m\u00e8res : idol\u00e2trie, fureur, trahison, d\u00e9sespoir, rejet, culpabilit\u00e9, peur de leur d\u00e9plaire et de leur ressembler.<\/p>\n

\u00ab Je t\u2019aime, moi non plus \u00bb<\/strong><\/h2>\n

\u00ab Je refuse de porter un tailleur, cela me fait penser \u00e0 ma m\u00e8re \u00bb dit Emma, 37 ans, cadre, mari\u00e9e, 2 enfants, \u00e0 la recherche de sa F\u00e9minit\u00e9. Elle se sent \u00ab coupable d\u2019aimer les escarpins \u00bb et \u00ab prisonni\u00e8re de l\u2019image inaccessible de sa une m\u00e8re, femme \u00e9l\u00e9gante et tr\u00e8s bourgeoisement correcte \u00bb.<\/p>\n

Nous sommes certainement nombreuses \u00e0 nous retrouver dans ce \u00ab je t\u2019aime, moi non plus \u00bb et beaucoup d\u2019entre nous, dans leur r\u00e9volte int\u00e9rieure, en ont voulu \u00e0 ces m\u00e8res tour \u00e0 tour id\u00e9alis\u00e9es, d\u00e9nigr\u00e9es, responsables d\u00e9sign\u00e9es de notre difficult\u00e9 \u00e0 nous sentir pleinement Femme et de notre impossibilit\u00e9 \u00e0 mettre du \u00ab vivant \u00bb sur le mot FEMINITE.<\/p>\n

Nos m\u00e8res ne nous ont pas appris \u00e0 nous lib\u00e9rer d\u2019elles et nous ne nous autorisons pas suffisamment \u00e0 nous affranchir du carcan historique, social, culturel, familial et religieux dans lequel nous avons \u00e9t\u00e9 \u00e9duqu\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Et si nos m\u00e8res avaient oubli\u00e9 de nous DIRE<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Qu\u2019elles \u00e9taient simplement humaines, filles de leur m\u00e8re, contraintes \u00e0 des comportements, des actes, des propos attendus, conformes aux r\u00e8gles de leur \u00e9poque\u00a0;<\/p>\n

Que nous n\u2019\u00e9tions nullement tenues par gratitude, conformisme ou fatalit\u00e9 \u00e0 reproduire leur histoire\u00a0;<\/p>\n

Que nous n\u2019avions ni \u00e0 leur plaire, ni \u00e0 leur ressembler et nul besoin de leur approbation pour nous r\u00e9aliser\u00a0;<\/p>\n

Que les gestes et traits de caract\u00e8re partag\u00e9s, renfor\u00e7aient notre relation mais que nous avions \u00e0 d\u00e9couvrir notre v\u00e9ritable personnalit\u00e9, \u00e0 d\u00e9velopper notre singularit\u00e9\u00a0;<\/p>\n

Que nous avions le DROIT \u00e0 une autonomie personnelle et le DEVOIR d\u2019\u00eatre nous, diff\u00e9rentes d\u2019elles.<\/p>\n

Et si nous, leurs filles, nous nous autorisions<\/strong><\/h2>\n

A humaniser l\u2019image que nous avons de nos m\u00e8res; \u00e0 les regarder autrement, d\u00e9pouill\u00e9es du carcan des mythes et des clich\u00e9s de la \u00ab bonne \u00bb ou \u00ab mauvaise \u00bb fille, m\u00e8re, \u00e9pouse\u00a0;<\/p>\n

A d\u00e9couvrir des aspects insoup\u00e7onn\u00e9s de leurs exp\u00e9riences de vie et de leur humanit\u00e9,<\/p>\n

A partager leur v\u00e9cu, explorer leurs combats, comprendre la motivation de leurs actes,<\/p>\n

A aimer nos m\u00e8res pour ce qu\u2019elles sont\u2026des Femmes, comme nous, avec lesquelles nous pouvons construire une relation faite de compr\u00e9hension et de respect,<\/p>\n

Accepter la m\u00e8re, reconnaitre la femme, nous aiderait \u00e0 mieux nous comprendre, nous d\u00e9finir, et, beaucoup plus sereinement, nous construire, donner vie \u00e0 nos aspirations, assumer nos choix et nous r\u00e9aliser dans notre f\u00e9minit\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Et si nos m\u00e8res avaient simplement oubli\u00e9 de nous DIRE qu\u2019elles nous aimaient,<\/p>\n

Qu\u2019elles \u00e9taient fi\u00e8res de nous.<\/p>\n

Et si nous, leurs filles, nous nous autorisions \u00e0 leur dire\u2026 MERCI<\/p>\n[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]\n\n\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Fille de sa m\u00e8re, m\u00e8re de sa fille, Femme adulte, coupable de ne pas \u00eatre la fille id\u00e9ale de notre m\u00e8re, esp\u00e9rant r\u00e9ussir \u00e0 \u00eatre la m\u00e8re de notre fille.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":1639,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"gallery","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[14,7],"tags":[27],"class_list":["post-394","post","type-post","status-publish","format-gallery","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psychogenealogie-et-transgenerationnel","category-publications","tag-relation-mere-fille","post_format-post-format-gallery"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/394","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=394"}],"version-history":[{"count":20,"href":"https:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/394\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1645,"href":"https:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/394\/revisions\/1645"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1639"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=394"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=394"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sensyma.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=394"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}