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Sur la route de la vie, ils se rencontrent et d\u00e9cident de faire un bout de chemin ensemble. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Une promenade ? Pourquoi pas un voyage ; 3 mois, 5 ans, 20 ans ; qu\u2019importe la dur\u00e9e, ils d\u00e9cident que l\u2019important est la qualit\u00e9 et l\u2019intensit\u00e9 de leur relation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seul compte la richesse des moments pass\u00e9s ensemble. Un \u00ab ici-maintenant \u00bb \u00e0 vivre pleinement pour laisser le futur se construire. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Chemin faisant, le besoin de s\u00e9duire facilitant les \u00e9changes, ils apprennent \u00e0 se connaitre. Chacun b\u00e9n\u00e9ficie d\u2019un caract\u00e8re bien tremp\u00e9, d\u2019une personnalit\u00e9 affirm\u00e9e. Chacun a tir\u00e9 enseignements de ses nombreuses exp\u00e9riences de vie. Pourtant, chacun d\u00e9couvre combien l\u2019acceptation de l\u2019autre est un exercice d\u00e9licat, difficile voire p\u00e9rilleux. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De chemins en sentiers, d\u2019anecdotes en confidences, d\u2019\u00e9clats de rire en silences prolong\u00e9s, chacun apaise les vagues de doutes, de peurs, d\u2019exaltation et d\u2019espoirs, g\u00e9n\u00e9r\u00e9s par ce que l\u2019autre lui donne \u00e0 voir, \u00e0 entendre et \u00e0 vivre. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Soudain, \u00e0 la crois\u00e9e des chemins, arrive le temps des critiques int\u00e9rioris\u00e9es, des malentendus entretenus, pr\u00e9misses aux frustrations et aux d\u00e9sillusions. \u00ab Je ne peux pas renoncer \u00e0 ce que je suis fondamentalement, je me sentirai trop mal, je ne serai plus moi \u00bb dit celle qui a mis tant d\u2019ann\u00e9es \u00e0 se construire, \u00e0 batailler pour mieux se connaitre et surtout s\u2019accepter. \u00ab Je suis comme \u00e7\u00e0 et il n\u2019est pas question que je change \u00bb lui r\u00e9pond l\u2019autre revendiquant sa singularit\u00e9. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u2019accepter se r\u00e9v\u00e8le une exigence r\u00e9ciproque <\/em><\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00e9rilleux exercice, o\u00f9 demander \u00e0 l\u2019autre de changer traduit notre peur inconsciente de mettre \u00e0 nu nos zones de fragilit\u00e9. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pour ne pas \u00e9courter la promenade, ils d\u00e9cident de faire une pause, le temps d\u2019apaiser leur tumulte int\u00e9rieur et de retrouver la confiance. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bien s\u00fbr qu\u2019on ne renonce pas \u00e0 son essence profonde ; surtout si l\u2019on a pass\u00e9 les 40 ans ou les 50 ans ; \u00catre soi-M\u2019Aime c\u2019est notre capital, notre assurance vie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ce que nous sommes fondamentalement n\u2019est pas n\u00e9gociable ; par contre proc\u00e9der \u00e0 quelques ajustements pour que l\u2019assemblage fonctionne ou soit harmonieux, peut \u00eatre consid\u00e9r\u00e9 comme une preuve de bon sens, mieux d\u2019intelligence. Assouplir, arrondir c\u2019est amener de la douceur, de la virtuosit\u00e9. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00catre accepter et accepter l\u2019autre demandent de l\u2019ouverture, de la sensibilit\u00e9, de la tol\u00e9rance, un \u00e9go musel\u00e9. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Le temps fait son \u0153uvre et ils d\u00e9cident de poursuivre ensemble la promenade, ralentissant le pas pour trouver le bon rythme. Chacun, \u00e0 sa mani\u00e8re, aspire \u00e0 ce que l\u2019autre ne soit ni un rival, ni un adversaire tout simplement un compagnon ou une compagne. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Non int\u00e9ress\u00e9s par la comp\u00e9tition, ils s\u2019interdisent une relation en rapport de force ; ils ambitionnent l\u2019\u00e9change et la compl\u00e9mentarit\u00e9. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ensemble \u00e0 la rencontre l\u2019un de l\u2019autre ; ils s\u2019imposent de remettre \u00e0 plus tard, dans leur intimit\u00e9, la confrontation \u00e0 leurs vieux d\u00e9mons. Ces tourments et ces blessures non cicatris\u00e9s qui les ferment \u00e0 l\u2019espoir et les font aimer dans l\u2019imaginaire. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Chacun de nous poss\u00e8de sa carapace de protection. Il n\u2019est pas toujours ais\u00e9 de transcender les effets de nos exp\u00e9riences de vie. Il faut du temps \u00e0 notre \u00e9go malmen\u00e9 pour accepter d\u2019enrichir notre potentiel en transformant, en atouts, qualit\u00e9s et comp\u00e9tences, les cons\u00e9quences de nos actes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Notre carapace nous prot\u00e8ge mais fausse l\u2019image que nous donnons \u00e0 voir ; baisser sa garde doit \u00eatre un acte volontaire, o\u00f9 prime l\u2019\u00e9vidence, que l\u2019on d\u00e9cide en confiance, pas \u00e0 pas. Comme un long effeuillage, un lent strip-tease \u00e0 deux, o\u00f9 l\u2019image devient doucement r\u00e9alit\u00e9 ; o\u00f9 l\u2019on peut aimer\u2026avec imagination. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

L\u00e0 se termine la promenade et commence le voyage. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Line LICAN<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Psychologue \u2013 Psycho G\u00e9n\u00e9alogiste<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Constellatrice Familiale Syst\u00e9mique<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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